If there is one thing you can be sure of in your divorce, it’s that you will be given plenty of advice.

Well-intentioned neighbors, cousins, and complete strangers will be happy to tell you war stories about their ex or about their sister who got divorced in some other state or some other country. Many will insist they know what you should do, even though they know nothing about the facts of your case or the law in New Mexico.

But there is one person whose advice will—and should—matter to you: your attorney.

Your attorney should be your trusted and supportive advocate at all times throughout your divorce, while also being the voice of reason during this emotional time. The counsel of your attorney can affect your life for years to come. A good attorney does not just tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear. You will never regret taking the time and energy to choose the right one for you.
You should see your relationship with your attorney as a collaborative partnership for pursuing what is most important to you and working toward your personal goals. With clear and open attorney–client communication, you will have the best outcome possible and your entire divorce will be less stressful. To enhance this open attorney–client communication, you cannot be afraid to ask questions. Asking questions is the means to clear and open communication with your attorney, which, in turn, leads to understandable, if not always agreeable, results.

By working closely with the right attorney, you can trust the professional advice you receive and simply thank the well-meaning advice givers for their concern.

For more information our book Divorce in New Mexico is available on the home page of our website for $14.95.