Clearly defined timesharing schedules are heavily favored in family court. Such schedules help children acclimate to transitions between parents, and develop stability. However, lately we have seen a large influx of timesharing issues revolving around school functions and sports. Planning for these events in advance and good co-parenting skills can really help lower the stress and anxiety for everyone involved.
For example, school picture day recently took place which requires coordination between parents not just in terms of getting the pictures paid for, but also in terms of the child’s outfit and hairstyle. If you have timesharing on school picture day and your child really wants to have her hair braided, but you haven’t quite perfected the French braid perhaps you should consider allowing the other parent to have timesharing on this day. If it makes your child happy, and gives them confidence for their big day this seems like a great solution. Moreover, it will help your co-parenting relationship.
The same level of coordination is great for sports. The last thing you want is for your child to show up to practice, or a game without their equipment or jersey. This will only embarrass them at a minimum. Work with the other parents as much as practicable. Is homecoming coming up, and are you taking pictures at your house ahead of time? Invite the other parent over so it can be something special and a memorable moment. Working together and extending the olive branch from time-to-time can be very effective for helping your children.
By: Randy W. Powers, Jr.